Let’s Start With An Observation Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Introduction Workshop
The first step in NVC is calling to other people’s attention – concretely and specifically – what they’re doing that affects us. The trick is to make observations about what we see or hear without mixing in our evaluations of meaning and significance.
Why bother focusing on the facts and avoiding the tendency to mix in judgments about people’s behaviour? As Rosenberg explains in Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: “When we combine observation with evaluation, we decrease the likelihood that others will hear our intended message. Instead, they are apt to hear criticism and thus resist what we are saying.”
It is not about proposing a new set of rights and wrongs. It is not wrong to use judgments. You might however find value to be aware of using them, so you can learn what ensues from using judgments and what ensues from using observations instead. Then you have choice.
Sounds simple maybe? But how tempting is it to say “You often don’t listen when I’m speaking” instead of “In our meeting today, I noticed that you were on your phone.”
This two-hour workshop will invite you to practice the first step of the NVC model and to gain understanding about the depth and meaning of it.
I first became aware of Nonviolent Communication in 2004 and have actively developed this new language through attending workshops, taking part in and leading practice groups. I have been facilitating NVC courses in the Nelson/Tasman area for the last few years and worked as a communication consultant in the business environment. I am a certification candidate for the Centre of Nonviolent Communication since the beginning of 2020.
I get the opportunity to role-model authentic communication in a range of volunteer positions in community groups (e.g. as part of the Luminate Trust Management Team, Volunteer Fire Fighter) as well as during my communal living with six households in the Motueka Valley.
In my role as a health coach I experience the magic of truly listening and giving empathy to people as opposed to giving advice and wanting to ‘fix’ someone’s problem.